Thursday, March 31, 2011

Effective filth


Yeah, judge me, judge me, but I saw the black swan for the second time tonight. (but only paid a dollar this time) and not only did I go see it but I had to work hard to do so, this meant sneaking in! Me and Katelin bought a ticket to Narnia...but didn't actually intend on seeing Narnia. I take being eighteen for granted, let me tell you that.  anyways, once we settled in our seats and stopped worrying that ever person that walked into the theatre was someone coming to kick us out, I started analyzing, (like I do to absolutely everything). Here is a plot summary for all you good little ladies and gents that did not go see this rated R movie in the first place.  


Nina is a ballerina in a New York City ballet company whose life, like all those in her profession, is completely consumed with dance. She lives with her obsessive former ballerina mother Erica who exerts a suffocating control over her. When artistic director Thomas Leroy decides to replace prima ballerina Beth MacIntyre for the opening production of their new season, Swan Lake, Nina is his first choice. But Nina has competition: a new dancer, Lily, who impresses Leroy as well. Swan Lake requires a dancer who can play both the White Swan with innocence and grace, and the Black Swan, who represents guile and sensuality. Nina fits the White Swan role perfectly but Lily is the personification of the Black Swan. As the two young dancers expand their rivalry into a twisted friendship, Nina begins to get more in touch with her dark side - a recklessness that threatens to destroy her.Thomas Leroy, the artistic director of a New York City ballet company, is mounting Swan Lake as the company's next production. Many of the ballerinas in the company aspire for the lead, which would have previously gone to the company's former principle dancer Beth Macintyre before her forced retirement. No one wants the the role more than Nina Sayers, who lives to dance, so much so that she wants to be exactly like Beth in every aspect. Nina lives with her overbearing mother, Erica Sayers, a former ballerina who now lives vicariously through her daughter as she never made it as a ballerina herself. Nina is a technically proficient and hard working dancer who can easily capture the essence of the innocent white swan, but Thomas doesn't believe she has the dark passion required to portray the black swan. An unexpected move by Nina convinces Thomas that Nina may have what it takes, and he gives her the lead. Thomas will do anything to get that passion out of her. Nina feels that her new place in the company is threatened by Lily, a ballerina newly arrived into the company from San Francisco. Lily, who is looser in every aspect of her life than Nina, encompasses the essence of the black swan more so than Nina. But as Nina believes Lily is to her what she herself was to Beth, Nina, in doing whatever it takes to be perfect as both the white swan and the black swan, descends into madness.


  Now I am not justifying that this movie is good, or uplifting but I can and will say that it sends a good message.  It is chock-full of symbolism.  Just for example, black swan, temptation or sin, white swan, innocence or virtue. When nina is being described and her bedroom is being shown, you notice that there are stuffed animals, pastels covering every inch, basically just like the room has not been touched since she was an innocent little girl which is what she is, innocent.  Lily, the rebellious, seductive, initially more appealing to the world girl is the exact opposite, the most bad influencing example that Nina falls into the trap of following.  Ninas mom, representing insecurity and a reaffirmation of what she does not want to become.   Until within the ballet, Nina is cased as the swan queen, do these things start to become effective. 
   This movie the best example of how we are all living our lives with temptation as well as jealousy.  We are surrounded with things that tempt us, whatever that might be, and even though we all know what is right from wrong, it is not always obvious what your decision should be, especially when you are already so week.  Sometimes we just want to throw the stuffed animals in the garbage and say, to hell with innocence when the other side clearly looks so much more desirable.  When you fall for these temptations, there is only one way to travel; Down, we are on a slippery slope as it is and to fall for temptation and jealousy is just like greasing the ski's so much that you eventually lose control. In the end of the movie, I liked knowing while watching the white swan fall to her death, because of endless pressure of temptation that over took her, that I know that no matter how far I fall, and however deep, There is always a way to stand again. Repentance. 


by the way...Can I also just say that a good theme to live by that has been magnified to me this week is that honesty really is the best policy. 

xxXo
Lauren

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

My, What big eyes you have


"Being apart comes with its own dangers, but of those I am less afraid."

Super Solitude

  Before I sit down to write something, I lost my train of though because I think my post's should have a topic.  Its madness in my life right now but whats new, so i am going to write like the way I feel right now.  Confused.  

      Although through the help of my best friend, I have figured out what has been mostly weighting on my mind, I am still in kind of a jumble and need a re-coop and from experience I know that writing helps me realize things...



Win-win or no deal: 
       I know that I need to be thinking win-win or no deal, well, I learned that today. (Who knew you learn things in school?) The situation I am in right now was not going to be a positive situation or a win, win or no deal.  there were too many red flags and too many things that I know I could never live with so why would I want to?  You truly do want what you can not have.  I just need to remember that if I ever had the chance to have what I couldn't have, I know I probably wouldn't want it.  I just know myself that well to be a smart and sensible young lady and remember, I am better off without.  No matter how hard it might be to stay away, even if I have nothing to hold onto.  



Drama?: 
        yeah, is over rated.  All I know is people are always going to do things to hurt you. You are always going to have people that do things that might break you in a mild or a major way. Always.  There are a lot of people in the world that thrive on these kinds of things.  Its true, that someone can be so insecure with themselves that they fuel on bringing others down and the drama that is created from it.  The thing about it is that I would never take back the experience of meeting people like this or I would have never learned a lesson from it.  Drama is unavoidable, its irritation does not get easier by age, I have come to know, but it can be minimized if you let it be that way.  All I can say though is,  forgiveness is not weakness. 



Younger days flashback:     


              some amazing advice to those in high-school

1. Decide and always remember who your true friends are and make sure they come first.

2. If you have to be a part of something that is dramatic, make sure all of your bases are covered and you can trust all of the parties involved when letting someone else in on the situation.

3. Be adventurous, do crazy, fun things, that are relatively safe, somewhat smart, and that wont make you feel guilty in the morning.

4. In the end, after everyones opinions and advice, decide for yourself what you really want or you will never be happy with your final decision. 

5. Dont regret or dwell on anything. Whats done is done.

6. Always shower and get ready for the night, you never know what will happen, but learn to do it in a timely fashion that wont leave your friends always waiting for you.  (You do not want to be the friend that you have to call two hours before anything because they know that is how long it takes them to get ready.)

7. Follow through with the first plans you made, even when a better offer comes along.  There is a reason that you made the first plans first.

8. Always do your best in school, it will all be worth it when you start applying for colleges.

9. Always remember who you are and what you stand for.


Love life.

<3- Lauren 

Thursday, March 17, 2011

So in need


Pray fOr Japan



Love life  


<3- Lauren

Saturday, March 12, 2011

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People


  • Habit 1: Be Proactive
Synopsis: Taking initiative in life by realizing your decisions (and how they align with life's principles) are the primary determining factor for effectiveness in your life. Taking responsibility for your choices and the subsequent consequences that follow.
  • Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
Synopsis: Self-discover and clarify your deeply important character values and life goals. Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your various roles and relationships in life. It is always better to try and foresee situtations. Predict outcomes and then think of worst case senarios, will help come up with informed decisions.
  • Habit 3: Put First Things First
Synopsis: Planning, prioritizing, and executing your week's tasks based on importance rather than urgency. Evaluating if your efforts exemplify your desired character values, propel you towards goals, and enrich the roles and relationships elaborated in Habit 2.Prioritization is the key to the success of any business or in any walk of life. Proactivness rather reactivness leads to sucess.
The next three have to do with Interdependence (i.e. working with others)
  • Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Synopsis: Genuinely striving for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships. Valuing and respecting people by understanding a "win" for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten his way. Everyone will feel inclusive and involved. A better environment of trust and loyalty establishes.
  • Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to be understood
Synopsis: Using empathetic listening to be genuinely influenced by a person, which compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to being influenced by you. This creates an atmosphere of caring, respect, and positive problem solving. This can also avoid situtaions where the problem doesnot actully exsist and its just a matter of misunderstanding. It is always said that listen double to what you talk since we have 2 ears to listen and one mouth to talk.
  • Habit 6: Synergize
Synopsis: Combining the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals no one person could have done alone. How to yield the most prolific performance out of a group of people through encouraging meaningful contribution, and modeling inspirational and supportive leadership. Everyone is a master of something and not everything. Positive potentials can be put together to achieve better results.
  • Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Synopsis: The balancing and renewal of your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable long-term effective lifestyle. This is constant improvment of ones self inorder to be better human being and to sharpen our skills inorder to achieve better results.

Friday, March 11, 2011

sHE kNOWS

      Dear,

            I’m jealous and impulsive. I don’t always say the right thing and I can be cruel. I am selfish. I am self loathing. I worry too much about my weight, hair, make-up. I want to be perfect but the truth is I’m not going to be. Ever.
I’m working on me every day. When I’m becoming jealous, I think of how lucky I am. When I begin to be impulsive I try to remember to stay smart. I try to think before I speak and remember that everyone I meet is fighting a battle. I try to let go and remember I am beautiful.
But it’s hard. Every day. And right now, at this moment, Im overwhelmed. The perfect word for how I feel. Overwhelmed.
So forgive me. Please. Don’t judge me. Right now, despite all of my flaws, love me. Tell me something. Anything. As long as it’s true. Just please. Show me everything is going to be okay.
This is my secret. It’s your secret. I’m human. You’re human. We can pretend. Say we’re not. Trick people into thinking we’re perfect. And they fall for it. Believe it. Then hate themselves because they’re not us. Not me.
But here’s the thing. I’m jealous and impulsive. I don’t always say the right thing and I can be cruel. I am selfish and self loathing. That’s the truth. The simple truth. I’m human.
So love me. Please. Just for now. Because you’re messed up too. For one moment. Just one. Show me you’re human. I need to see that. We all need that. So come. Be human with me. If only for a moment…

Love,

~ Letters I'll Never Send ~   

Love life

<3- Lauren

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

I'd do anything for you little guy.

     Its better sweet to say that I am happy right now when so much sadness and sorrow is filling the trunk of my family tree.  I know tragedy happens to everyone and sooner or later, all people lose someone close to them.  I Just don't understand, can not grasp, or fathom why such things happen when they do or why babies die for no definitive reason at all.  I obviously don't have children, so I can only imagine how people with them feel about this kind of situation with the shock I feel for it now.  I know you have to look at it as a blessing that the small, innocent, perfect child went to a better place before you drive yourself crazy thinking of reasons and trying to blame it on something or someone.  I have a testimony that people are taken when it is their time and not a minute sooner.  Some just complete their missions a little quicker.  Love life...while your live.



Tribute to my baby cousin, only six months old, passed away tragically and completely unexpectedly.
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<3- Lauren

Monday, March 7, 2011

Day 7 - A picture of your most treasured item


Waldo Is my    first born, and    I care about  him literally as if he is my child. 


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 I got this beautiful baby for christmas this year and I adore it like it is my second child. 

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Really Ready




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      I could possibly start a fan club for Palm Springs California.  I am in Lust with it.  It is by far, after all is said and done, and all the vacations I have been on, my very most favorite.  I don't know if it reminds me of being a child and all the innocence that is attached to that, but it is just happy. Nothing bad can happen when your there and I could not be more excited to go there in a week. I can not even wait and I need this right now. SO bad. LOVE life!


<3- Lauren 

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Im a Mess; I confess

I’m mad at you.
i’m mad at the fact that you make me look like a complete idiot.
mad at the fact that I deserve better.. but I don’t want better.
mad at the fact that I believed every word you ever spoke to me. especially the lies.
mad at the fact that it’s tearing me apart to see you everyday and your not hurting like I am.
mad at the fact that I have to put on a fake smile around all of our friends just so they don’t ask me what is wrong and I don’t break down.
mad at the fact that I sit by my phone and wait for you to call.. text.. anything. but nothing.

i’m mad at the fact that i’m not mad at you at all. i’m mad at myself for letting myself fall for you, knowing you had no intention of catching me.
~ Letters I'll Never Send ~


    Love, love, love, this letter someone wrote on lettersillneversend.com It really is amazing to see how easy it is to stumble on another person that feels the same way you do or believes the same things you do. I love that I can relate to someone that I have never met, have never seen; I don't even know their name. 
    I just realized for the first time in a long time that that for a mili-second, there was no one person that I would drive myself crazy over thinking that all I wanted was for them to be holding me because I knew what it felt like, I had experienced it before and I didn't, couldn't, Live without it. I overlapped people that would give me that feeling of annoyance and irritation for lack of their arms around me as they had been before and didn't really know how to live without it; even though I hated it.  Well, be careful what you wish for. It might just come back, and in one way or another and boy has it. 
   The feeling you get when you just think about them for a second or two, and that is all it takes.  The moment you realize that all you want to do is tell them all about what your doing at that very second but your worried they might not care.  You want them to care, but do they?  The moment you get a call or a text, and an electric shock shoots from your toes to your hair and makes you gleam. It seams almost unhealthy to get such excitement from one persons slight actions right? well, all I want to do is tell myself its not real, or its not right (because its not) but I can not let myself give it up and I do not understand why. Probably never will.   Love life


<3- Lauren